Why singles don’t date
Half of all singles don’t date
Research has shown that half of those who report their relationship status as single haven’t been on a date in 2 years. As a matchmaker I would have to agree. In fact I would suggest that it’s potentially higher as the research was conducted by e harmony. How many of you have got that single friend, who’s often amazing but still single? Or maybe that person is you! The question to ask them or yourself is – do you date?
Fear of dating
It has been said that there is a fear of dating. That fear will usually come from an internal story being told. Here is a tiny selection of some I’ve heard
- They wont look anything like their picture – yes this is a real risk of online dating.
- serial killers find victims on dates – that is the most common reason for women not dating!
- I’ve not got the time
- Fear of rejection
The last one is the most realistic. While the picture one happens it’s only going to waste time, not impact feelings. The real chance of meeting a serial killer on a first date?! About the same as being struck by lightning. However the chance of going on a date, liking them but not getting that call back? That is REAL. As for the time one, that is a pure EXCUSE! We all have time for dating.
Fear is no excuse!
The fear of rejection is no excuse for not dating! While I’m a huge advocate for proactive time alone between relationships, significant relationships. Hiding on your sofa or behind a computer working does not count. If you are single and ready for a relationship there is no excuse for not dating. None.
Get real about dating and reduce that fear
Have you seen the articles I’ve written about what a date is and most importantly what he AIM of a first date is. Once you understand these key things this could well reduce your nerves a whole lot. Some nerves is a very good thing but to hide and avoid dating completely? Well that is just being a cop-out and denying yourself a chance of happiness.
Security or fakes?
If your fear is truly based on the concern of security or fakers then working with a matchmaker takes all of that away. We meet ALL members, open or private face too face before you do. Yes that’s right we sit opposite them, complete back ground checks before you date.
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